Healthy Wife Crush Of The Month: Nicole Fromer
'Healthy Wife Crush Of The Month' is a monthly interview series featuring the wellness and blogging worlds’ most prominent rock stars. These incredible women have been able to build thriving, inspiring careers all while focusing on family first. They’re opening up with you about their life behind-the-scenes, many for the first time, and what they share is completely unique to Healthy Wifestyle. I’m so grateful to all of them, and can’t wait to share their interviews with you!
For our first HW Crush Of The Month, meet Nicole, a gal who had my heart from the first day I met her.
Nicole Fromer is a model, mama, wife, dog lover, and Sarasota, Florida resident. One look at Nicole and you may start to make assumptions, as most women do. What you don’t know is that behind those gorgeous blue-green eyes lies one of the most kind and genuine souls I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing. Nicole has been working her booty off since her teenage years as a model and has been featured on the covers of some of the most noteworthy magazines including Women’s Health and Fitness. Famed model by day, amazing wife and mama by night (well, and day now, since she has a one-year old at home!). Let’s dive in so you can get to know Nicole and fall in love with her just as I have!
You know I absolutely adore you. But before we got to know each other, something that drew me to you from the very beginning was your attitude on healthy living--especially since you’re in a field that tends to push women in the opposite direction with the constant ridicule from agents and fellow models. How do you stay in the right mindset while doing this work?
You’re so sweet! Being in the fashion industry can definitely eat at a girl’s self esteem. I’m not gonna lie, there is a lot of pressure to be “perfect” and it’s not always from clients or the agents either. It also comes from that little voice inside your head when you’re at a casting with other models that are all beautiful in their own way--many who are vying for the same exact job you’re there for! It’s hard not to compare yourself to the competition. Everything from noticing someone has a better booty or abs than you, is dressed better, has that designer handbag you’ve been pining over for months but can’t get yourself to actually buy--ALL those things and more.
I think what really helped me overcome the pressure to be “perfect” was just growing into my own skin as I got older. I started modeling when I was 14. I was just a kid. There were many years of self doubt, not eating well, staying out too late, and ultimately burning out again and again. Once I hit my early to mid-20s I realized that exercise was more than just a way to stay thin and keep the work coming. Exercise made me FEEL good. I found activities that I enjoyed doing and made time for myself to enjoy them. I joined a really cool gym that had a huge variety of classes. I found my favorites and made it a mission to go whenever I had time.
Working out and having fun lead to me eating better too. I noticed how crummy and lethargic I felt if I ate too much sugar or refined wheat, drank too much the night before, or barely ate at all. Exercise really started it all for me, and has helped me maintain a strong physique and healthy mindset for all things in my life.
Do you have any rituals you practice daily to keep yourself uplifted and grounded?
That was an easier question to answer before I had my daughter! Before Charlie came along I had started a short morning meditation followed by a warm mug of hot lemon water. Now, I scramble out of bed when she decides it’s time to wake up (way too early if you ask me) and sip on a large cup of coffee throughout the morning. Not so zen.
In all honestly, I have struggled to find the balance I once had on the daily. But being at home with my daughter and seeing how she is growing and learning so quickly really keeps me going. I love how she will run into my arms to give me a huge hug, how she toddles around the kitchen repeating “Mama” or “Dada”, and her huge belly laughs when I tickle her or get our family dog in on the fun on the floor. It’s so amazing. She keeps me grounded these days.
Tell me something fun about yourself that may be surprising.
I co-own a wine distribution company in Florida with some friends. I’ve been able to take trips to wine regions around the country and world to find new wines for us to carry. It’s a lot of fun.
With the addition of your oh-so gorgeous daughter Charlie (now 15 months), what has shifted in your desire to care for yourself and your family? How important is self-care to you and how do you handle it as a new mommy?
Wow it’s amazing how much things have shifted since becoming a Mom!!! It’s a full time job, and I really don’t know what I did with all my time before having a baby.
So self care is SUPER important when you’re a parent. If you aren’t your best self, your patience isn’t there (which you need A LOT of), and it’s harder to enjoy all the little moments with your tiny human. It took me about a year after having her, to figure out that I really did need to prioritize MYSELF a little more. And I think a lot of women struggle with this. It’s hard to take time for yourself when you want to give every ounce of yourself to your child.
I’ve just recently started getting my act together to make self-care a priority. I’m trying to make it a point to go to bed earlier, and to get some sort of movement in on a daily basis. Some days are better than others. Sometimes I’m only able to get a short walk in with Charlie and our dog, but during that walk I’ll do lunges while my dog sniffs around. If I’m lucky….I have the energy to get to the gym at a time when the child care area is actually open, and it doesn’t interfere with nap time. (Yay for a gym with child care!). Some days during nap time I’ll work out, but lately I prefer to get some actual work done during nap time (or just SLEEP!) so I can save a workout for when she’s awake. I’m lucky to have Grandparents close by, so occasionally I will get a few hours to myself--but I need to spend that time for ME more often, instead of just running errands. Taking time for yourself will translate to a better relationship with your partner too. I know that I’m a happier person now that I’ve found a little bit of time to take care of myself.
All-time favorite snack?
Lately I’ve been LOVING chia pudding. Some cinnamon and vanilla, or mango and coconut. YUMMY! But my guilty pleasure is anything salty...preferably peanut butter filled pretzels :)
As a gal who has worked her butt off since she was 15 years-old, what was it like to take a break after having your daughter? Do you have any advice for moms-to-be or new mommies out there who are considering taking some time off?
This one is tough. I actually took quite a bit of time off before giving birth, too. It was sort of a “forced maternity leave” because I couldn’t fit into normal clothes for my clients, but my belly wasn’t big enough for maternity work until I was too close to my due date!
It was really hard not working and making money for our household, but I kept reminding myself I was growing our baby and I needed to take care of myself. Really….that is such an important job! You are growing a HUMAN inside you! Everything you eat, drink, and feel is getting transmitted to that little bean. Sleeping as much as possible is really important, eating well for the most part (80/20 rule still applies here!), and getting some form of movement in. Prenatal yoga was a lifesaver for me, as was acupuncture which really helped me with the headaches I was getting daily.
And AFTER the baby is born?? First of all, those first few months postpartum are not only time to get to know your new little baby but also a time for healing. It takes a LONG time for your body to heal, and for hormones to level out, and for you to get used to this new role as a mother, and to get kind of used to the idea of functioning on less sleep. I would say take as much time off as possible to heal and to bond with your child.
There are so many factors involved when it comes time for a woman to make the decision to go back to work or not. Maternity leave in the U.S. is a joke, and for those who are lucky enough to get the first three months of their little one’s life off and still get paid, that’s a relief. But at the three month mark a lot of women have to make a difficult decision to go back to work, or decide to quit their jobs and careers they’ve worked their entire adult life for. It’s hard! Some of my mom friends would love to stay at home and raise their kids, but they just can’t because of financial reasons. On the flip side, staying home to raise a family is a difficult choice to make too. For those that are lucky enough to be able to make that choice, more power to you! It’s a life changing experience. I feel very blessed that I have a husband who works hard for us, which allows me to stay home and raise our daughter. But don’t be fooled! Days can be very long. At times it feels like a very thankless job and the laundry is never ending. But at the end of the day, the time spent watching her learn and grow and become her own little person is so rewarding. I wouldn’t change it for anything.
Best moment of motherhood so far?
Every day just keeps getting better and better! From that very first moment she was placed in my arms after she was born, every milestone and new thing she does is the best thing. But before I get too mushy on the subject, I would say my favorite part (this week) is how she will run as fast as her little legs will take her right into my arms when I’m down on her level, with no hesitation, knowing I will catch her and give her a big bear hug. And she loves to give kisses and hugs, and its just the sweetest thing!
Best advice you’ve ever been given?
“The days are long but the years are short, so take it all in and enjoy every moment.” I’ve heard this from numerous people who have grown children of their own. Because before you know it, you’ll blink and the little one will be off to college. That sounds so simple and yet, so unfathomable that 18 years would go by in a flash. But I can already tell that it’s true. We just celebrated Charlie’s 1st birthday and I seriously Can. Not. Believe. It. There are days when I’m counting down the minutes to bedtime because I just need a break and some quiet--and then I feel guilty wishing away the day. So I try to remember that piece of advice when I’m having a less than stellar day, and it usually get me back in the right mindset. Then I give Charlie a big hug and kiss and savor the moment, because one day she’ll think she’s too cool to get snuggled by her Mom.
If you have any thoughts you'd like to share with me or Nicole, please post them in the comments below! Thanks so much for being here for our very FIRST HWC (Healthy Wife Crush) Of The Month.
Heart you all!